By JR on Thursday, November 24, 2016
How to deal with sexual harassment
The woman writing below seems unaware that males have always perceived some females as more attractive than others. And she seems equally unaware that they share their perceptions in various ways. And the females concerned will usually become aware in one way or another of how they are rated. That is all wrong according to the writer below.
It is true that many males are crude in conveying what they think but social skills too will always vary. But to see poorly-conveyed judgments as "harassment" is to legislate against nature. It is an attempt to suppress natural behavior.
Lessons at school in male/female communication might help everyone but to get upset by clumsy comments is simply maladaptive. It will help no-one. It should simply be seen as a reason to appreciate more polite approaches.
And unattractive women probably need to be apprised of what they are. There have always been great delusions among women about how desirable they are and that has been accentuated by Left-influenced educational principles which dictate that everyone should have prizes.
I remember years ago sitting in a cafe and listening to a conversation between two young women waitresses. One of them declared that she was waiting for "her millionaire". She was loud, short, fat, pimply, with short bleach-blonde hair. She was unusually unattractive. Yet she thought that she might be able to snare a millionaire! More realistic messages about her appearance might have helped her. If she lost weight, grew her hair and learned some speaking skills she would certainly have got closer to her goal. Truth is always the best in the long run, even if it upsets temporarily.
Women have always coped with crude approaches. What makes it difficult for them is people like the writer below who tell them to be upset and bothered by it
A RECENT STUDY by the American Association of University Women found that 58 percent of students in seventh through 12th grades have experienced some form of sexual harassment. When I mentioned this statistic to my freshman college students, they responded with a nonchalant, “Oh yeah, it happens all the time in high school.”
Recently, news broke that Harvard University’s men’s soccer team created a “scouting report,” rating physical attributes of members of the incoming freshman women’s soccer team. Now the Harvard men’s cross country team is being investigated for something similar.
But such conduct sometimes starts much earlier. A mother called me recently after finding out that the boys in her daughter’s 7th grade class had been posting inappropriate comments on Snapchat about the girls and rating their “hotness.”
It’s a cruel twist of fate that just as teens are dealing with the perils of puberty — growth spurts, breast development, acne, changing body shape, and self-consciousness — their appearance brings so much unwanted attention. For every girl who gets labeled a “10” by the boys, others are publicly deemed a “2.” Meanwhile, they are all being objectified.
One of the major tasks of adolescence is to develop an identity. An important question teens must ask themselves in this process is: What do I value about myself, and how will I use this understanding to move forward as an adult? Embarrassment, humiliation, and low self-esteem — all byproducts of sexual harassment — can have long-lasting effects on feelings of competence and confidence that can last a lifetime.