Getting "Daddy's girl" wrong

From the report below, it would seem that some people see a "Daddy's girl" as weak and dependant. I am not going to rule that out as being true in some cases but all the cases I have seen have been quite the opposite -- the inimitable Samantha Brick being the best-known case in point. The adverse cases referred to below may be ones where the girl's affection for her father was not fully returned. That would indeed be very sad and damaging. The lady in my life was a Daddy's Girl and it needs a very strong woman to put up with me -- so that speaks volumes, I think

Just a final thought -- maybe right or maybe wrong: Perhaps it needs a strong man to cope with strong woman. Samantha Brick's husband is clearly no shrinking violet

This week, like 900,000 odd people, I tuned in to watch episode one of Being Lara Bingle. I also jumped on Twitter to see what the reaction was. Because I’m a #wordnerd.

What I found interesting was the reaction that came to the surface about “The Daddy’s Girl Dynamic”.

During the show, Lara talked about losing her father, and described herself as a “Daddy’s Girl” – her father was her special person before passing.

She also talked about a lot of the “scandals” she has been involved in, and pondered whether things would have been different if her Dad had been around to guide her, during those difficult times. Or perhaps even pull her into line.

Missing your father – whether at 24 or 82 - is totally understandable. So is the idea that she would look up to him. People do that with parents. Some do it for their whole life.

Yet the girly revelation of a woman still needing her father to guide her, seemed to anger a lot of men on Twitter. Now there’s nothing wrong with a woman of 24 wishing she could speak to her Dad.

But many people believe the dynamic of a “Daddy’s Girl” to be dysfunctional. Women might not like to date a “Mummy’s Boy”, but men don’t dig a “Daddy’s Girl” much either…

Why? “Being a Daddy’s Girl, isn’t attractive, because whether their dad is here with us or has passed, it means a woman is still a bit of a ‘lost little girl’ looking to have a man guide and direct her, not able to take responsibility for her own life and actions,” said reader Damien.

“What it seemed to touch on, was the concept that women who still need a dad/father figure, to guide their life basically have issues.”

My workmate Sarah said: “I’ve seen it with my own friends. Women who idolise their father, to the point that no man lives up to him, never seem to meet someone or have very tumultuous relationships. They are always talking about their Dad or wanting too much attention, which in some ways keeps them like a child.”

So I guess Daddy’s Girl is not really so different to Mummy’s Boy. And for both sexes, a partner who needs or desires to be led or taken care of emotionally by a parent tends to turn people off.

But before we turn into the parent police, is this really so bad?


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