tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9487055.post2539173728123424901..comments2024-03-26T05:56:59.938+11:00Comments on THE PSYCHOLOGIST : JRhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00829082699850674281noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9487055.post-52369361990030573342016-01-23T22:26:00.714+11:002016-01-23T22:26:00.714+11:00It is true that every relationship is unique, and ...It is true that every relationship is unique, and any violence or abuse going on in it is unique too. There are often common types and patterns though. It is also true what Mark Latham says about violence being linked to the emasculation of men, and there being a kick the cat syndrome, or kinds of displacement aggression. <br /><br />There are all sorts of domination and cruelty that go on between people. Men don't do it all; men only do half of it. And women are not better or worse than men, just different. Women's hearts are just as dark as men's can be. But women's cruelty comes out in different ways. Generally, women are more manipulative that men, they are more cunning, more subtle, and they know how to keep looking good. A trained eye though, one that can see and understand subtle patterns, can see what is going on. <br /> <br /><br />I suspect that in Australia there is a greater prevalence of lies, deception and manipulation being spread about domestic violence than about any other subject. As examples of common malicious practices, aside from citing phoney statistics, telling lies and using irrational and misapplied definitions on the subject, are the fraudulent men's anger management courses which have next to nothing to do with teaching men how to control anger, just trying to emotionalise and emasculate men and make them ashamed of being men, especially ashamed of being men of western heritage, and psychologist's deliberate denial to women of how to de-escalate affective aggression in others and instead encouraging them to crudely assert their "rights". <br /><br />There is no one easier to manipulate than an angry man, and with a little know-how one can have him like a puppet on strings, controlling his every action, words, tones, expressions - everything about him comes under one's control to the finest degree. It is an easy skill to teach. I teach it. And I am good at it too. I have worked with angry men, drug addicts, alcoholics, incarcerated criminals of every sort, and in the roughest psych units, and I can make an angry person, man or woman, step forward or backward, stand up or sit back down, raise or lower their hands, change their tone, harden or soften expression, strike me or hit the table, or storm out, or cause their anger to melt away, sit down and spill their heart to me, and all by such subtle cues that an untrained observer cannot see. The basic principle of de-escalation is, make the other person feel heard. Upon that principle is built the craft. It requires a sincere heart though. Psychs who understand it or know of its existence deny to women the knowledge of escalation and de-escalation someone else's anger, and instead teach women to use crude assertiveness which they know escalates affective aggression (emotional relationship related aggression). <br /><br />An interesting fact about this skill, when rightly taught, is it works upon the practitioner too. When either one works it well, it works upon both parties. And it not only gets rid of anger, it changes lives. So I teach it to most of my male clients who have anger problems in their relationships, along with scenario training - two things which are not only not found in any anger management course I know of, but are also viciously opposed by every gov funded feminist controlled domestic violence organisation and its course designers that I know of - all run by psychologists who use de-escalation and scenario training themselves, but refuse to help others with those same skills and understandings, because if they did then the information and tactics they are teaching now would be seen for what they are - dangerous. <br /><br />Perhaps one day the lid will get blown off the subject and the lies spread, and cruel works done by feminist man-hating and wife-hating psychologists will become known to the general public. Perhaps we will see class actions taken and psychologists disgraced for betraying public trust and deliberately causing harm. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com