THE PSYCHOLOGIST : I’m a proud stay-at-home girlfriend: Here are my rules

I’m a proud stay-at-home girlfriend: Here are my rules

I think I can trump the story below. When I met my third wife in 1983 she was separated, had three young kids and worked as a shop assistant. She was however very bright, very good-hearted and looked good in jeans, so I married her.

I had made some good investment decisions early on in life so I was able to release her from having to work. She became a full-time housewife. And she was a good cook.

To top it off however I also did not work and stayed home most of the day. So I was always available to mind her three bright and lively children while she went out shopping and socializing. Her time was as free as if she had been single and without children.

We split up after 10 years together but have remained good friends. Nearly 40 years after I met her, I still have dinners with her every week

A stay-at-home girlfriend has laid down the law with a stern set of rules that her man abides by – and what he agrees to may surprise you.

Leaha Ureel, a 22-year-old from Michigan, US, wears her stay-at-home girlfriend crown with pride.

She never pays for meals, pulls out her own chair or pours her own wine.

And, of course, she doesn’t have a job and she sure as heck doesn’t want one, either.

Leaha said she used to avoid men she dated in her single days when they didn’t dress sharp enough.

She even broke up with her boyfriend, Alan, after having the epiphany she needed to live a life of being waited on hand and foot.

“I wanted time for myself and to have someone to provide for me,” Leaha said. “Alan wasn’t able to provide for me at that point so we broke up.”

After a few months though, Alan, a 23-year-old contractor, got the message and proposed to Leaha — once he “stepped up to her standards”.

Alan met the criteria after setting up a home-renovation business in the interest of supporting his other half. He even carves out time from work to get coffee with Leaha now the pair are married.

“He stepped up — now he arranges and takes me for dates at least twice a week. I like him to take initiative and book a restaurant for a meal or choose what we are doing,” she said.

Meanwhile Leaha, who has a university degree and used to wait tables, gets to spend her days as she wishes.

“Now I go for walks with the dogs and spend lots of my time cooking,” she said.

“I love being a housewife, and I want others to know that it is OK to aspire to have this lifestyle.”

Leaha also took the time to pass along some red flags to spot in providers for anyone else who wants to live her lifestyle.

If they’re commenting on prices, not tipping at restaurants, making comments about underdressing or rescheduling things last minute – then it’s time to find someone else she said.

“I’m not ashamed to be a stay-at-home wife … I don’t think there should be shame over wanting to be a stay-at-home girlfriend or wife,” she said.

“It’s your life, so you choose how you would like to live it.”

https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/marriage/im-a-proud-stayathome-girlfriend-here-are-my-rules/news-story/4c8c6e81321128cd33c09f8e63d8e2f7

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This blog is written solely by John Ray, who has a Ph.D. degree in psychology and 200+ papers published in the academic journals of the social sciences. It does occasionally comment on issues in psychology but is mainly aimed at giving a conservative psychologist's view on a broad range of topics. There are very few conservative psychologists.

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A primer in American politics for non-Americans:

SCOTUS is the Supreme Court of the United States, the highest court in the land

The "GOP" stands for "Grand Old Party" and refers to the Republican party. The GOP is at present center/Right, while the Democrats have been undergoing a steady drift Leftwards and now have policies similar to mainstream European Leftist parties.

The ideological identity of both parties has however been very fluid -- almost reversing itself over time. In the mid 19th century, the GOP was the party of big government and concern for minorities while the Democrats advertised themselves as "The party of the white man" -- an orientation that lasted into the mid 20th century in the South. The Democrats are still obsessed with race but have now flipped into support for discrimination AGAINST whites.

Was Pope Urban VIII the first Warmist? Below we see him refusing to look through Galileo's telescope. People tend to refuse to consider evidence— if what they might discover contradicts what they believe.

Global warming

Calibrated in whole degrees. Larger graph here

Climate scientist Lennart Bengtsson said. “The warming we have had the last 100 years is so small that if we didn’t have meteorologists and climatologists to measure it we wouldn’t have noticed it at all.”

The term "Fascism" is mostly used by the Left as a brainless term of abuse. But when they do make a serious attempt to define it, they produce very complex and elaborate definitions -- e.g. here and here. In fact, Fascism is simply extreme socialism plus nationalism. But great gyrations are needed to avoid mentioning the first part of that recipe, of course.

Two examples of Leftist racism below (much more here and here):

Beatrice Webb, a founder of the London School of Economics and the Fabian Society, and married to a Labour MP, mused in 1922 on whether when English children were "dying from lack of milk", one should extend "the charitable impulse" to Russian and Chinese children who, if saved this year, might anyway die next. Besides, she continued, there was "the larger question of whether those races are desirable inhabitants" and "obviously" one wouldn't "spend one's available income" on "a Central African negro".

Hugh Dalton, offered the Colonial Office during Attlee's 1945-51 Labour government, turned it down because "I had a horrid vision of pullulating, poverty stricken, diseased nigger communities, for whom one can do nothing in the short run and who, the more one tries to help them, are querulous and ungrateful."

Defensible and indefensible usages of the term "racism"

The book, The authoritarian personality, authored by T.W. Adorno et al. in 1950, has been massively popular among psychologists. It claims that a set of ideas that were popular in the "Progressive"-dominated America of the prewar era were "authoritarian". Leftist regimes always are authoritarian so that claim was not a big problem. What was quite amazing however is that Adorno et al. identified such ideas as "conservative". They were in fact simply popular ideas of the day but ones that had been most heavily promoted by the Left right up until the then-recent WWII. See here for details of prewar "Progressive" thinking.

R.I.P. Augusto Pinochet. Pinochet deposed a law-defying Marxist President at the express and desperate invitation of the Chilean parliament. He pioneered the free-market reforms which Reagan and Thatcher later unleashed to world-changing effect. That he used far-Leftist methods to suppress far-Leftist violence is reasonable if not ideal. The Leftist view that they should have a monopoly of violence and that others should follow the law is a total absurdity which shows only that their hate overcomes their reason

Franklin Delano Roosevelt was a war criminal. Both British and American codebreakers had cracked the Japanese naval code so FDR knew what was coming at Pearl Harbor. But for his own political reasons he warned no-one there. So responsibility for the civilian and military deaths at Pearl Harbor lies with FDR as well as with the Japanese. The huge firepower available at Pearl Harbor, both aboard ship and on land, could have largely neutered the attack. Can you imagine 8 battleships and various lesser craft firing all their AA batteries as the Japanese came in? The Japanese naval airforce would have been annihilated and the war would have been over before it began.

FDR prolonged the Depression. He certainly didn't cure it.

WWII did NOT end the Great Depression. It just concealed it. It in fact made living standards worse

Joe McCarthy was eventually proved right after the fall of the Soviet Union. To accuse anyone of McCarthyism is to accuse them of accuracy!

The KKK was intimately associated with the Democratic party. They ATTACKED Republicans!

People who mention differences in black vs. white IQ are these days almost universally howled down and subjected to the most extreme abuse. I am a psychometrician, however, so I feel obliged to defend the scientific truth of the matter:

The average African adult has about the same IQ as an average white 11-year-old and African Americans (who are partly white in ancestry) average out at a mental age of 14. The American Psychological Association is generally Left-leaning but it is the world's most prestigious body of academic psychologists. And even they have had to concede that sort of gap (one SD) in black vs. white average IQ. 11-year olds can do a lot of things but they also have their limits and there are times when such limits need to be allowed for.

America's uncivil war was caused by trade protectionism. The slavery issue was just camouflage, as Abraham Lincoln himself admitted. See also here

Did William Zantzinger kill poor Hattie Carroll?

Did Bismarck predict where WWI would start or was it just a "free" translation by Churchill?

Leftist psychologists have an amusingly simplistic conception of military organizations and military men. They seem to base it on occasions they have seen troops marching together on parade rather than any real knowledge of military men and the military life. They think that military men are "rigid" -- automatons who are unable to adjust to new challenges or think for themselves. What is incomprehensible to them is that being kadaver gehorsam (to use the extreme Prussian term for following orders) actually requires great flexibility -- enough flexibility to put your own ideas and wishes aside and do something very difficult. Ask any soldier if all commands are easy to obey.

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