Children are a joy and a great delight -- but not so much for feminists
That a woman of no great physical strength will fight like a lion to protect her children tells you something about the bond that forms between normal parents and their children. So much so that a lot of parents are embarrassed by it. When asked about childrearing, a mother will often stress the negatives rather than confess the great happiness that children bring. Children give the happiness that drug users seek but do not find. Foolish people frantically seek pleasures in all sorts of places when the key to happiness is right under their noses: children.
But children are a burden, too, right? They can be. A single mother bringing up children by herself has to be unusually capable and resourceful to come through the experience well. But single mothers are well outside what humans have evolved for. For almost as long as we have been human, a mother was surrounded by helpful others: a husband plus two sets of grandparents.
A husband took away much of the need to work so doing things with the children could be a fairly relaxed affair. And whenever a mother needed time out -- to work or unwind, there were as many as four grandparents to help out with the childminding. Often the grandparents did more of the child-rearing than the mother did. As a child, my son spent more of the day with his Nanna than with any other family member. And I won't mention aunts, uncles, siblings and cousins. To this day, they often help out too.
And the scenario I have described still actually exists in most of the world and is not uncommon even in "modern" societies.
But some "independent" people in their wisdom think they can do without all that. Their values are quite simply unwise. And to them children can be a great stress and a burden. They make out of their greatest happiness their greatest burden. They find that "independence" is not all it is cracked up to be. Independence and support are basically opposites. Anybody reading this might do well to think for a little while about whether their various connections with others could be strengthened.
And one of the greatest sources of the independence folly are feminists. Contrary to all human experience, they even preach that men and women don't need one-another. So some women are misled into missing out on children altogether. Biology being what is is, however, most feminists do seem in the end to have a child or two. And that's where the "fun" starts. The "sisterhood" turns out to be surprisingly unhelpful to the mother concerned. They may even scorn the mother concerned and call her a "breeder", a term of great contempt for them. Children are just not their bag.
If there is a man consistently in the mother's life, that can be a big help but may not be. A strong bond between a man and a feminist is inherently unlikely. So when children arrive the man may run, or at least distance himself. So a feminist mother will generally be stuck in the stressful single mother scenario. Her only salvation from that will be that she has retained enough connections with her parents for them to help. But she will still be more burdened that she would have been in a traditional relationship.
Traditional relationships are wise. They will of course have some conflicts but they are what has evolved to fit us best. They are traditional because they do fit what we are. But these days a lot of mothers don't even have a husband so they haven't even got their foot on the first rung of the ladder.
Why are they so foolish? Again, feminism is a big part of the blame. Feminists fill women's heads with lies such as women can "have it all" and even deceive women about how desirable "all" is. They fill women's heads with fantasies about how wonderful is this "career" that men have.
They fail to mention that a man enters onto a career as simply the best way to make money, not to achieve honour and glory. And they fail to mention that a career entails spending the best part of most of your day in the company of people you don't particularly like and whom you would not seek out. Sometimes you may get good feelings out of your career but all you usually get for all the stresses you endure is money. And many men would gladly throw it all away if they could reasonably do so.
And to cap it all, a feminist mother may well bear a boy. And there is nothing more destructive of feminists delusions than a normal little boy. 90% of the time he will be indestructibly boyish. Given him a choice of a dolly and a toy truck and 90% or more of the time he will choose the truck. I have two favourite real life stories about that:
* A woman has three boys in close succession, and being a kindly soul, she gave her boys toys that they chose. She had however heard feminist ravings so wondered if they would like a dolly. So she gave them one. They promptly ripped it legs off, pulled its eyes out and threw it in a corner. They decisively educated her about male/female differences. She herself had a doll from her childhood which she greatly treasured. In a traditional society men fought the battles and women minded the children. And that is now genetically encoded.
* I was at a party where there was a 4-year-old boy. I was talking to him about his toys and said to him, "Boys have trucks and girls have dolls, don't they? He promptly nodded. But a more "modern" man nearby then said to the boy, "But boys sometimes have dolls too, don't they?" The boy's reply was eloquent. He simply said "AAARGH!".
And if the feminist mother bans her boy from having toy guns, he will simply imagine one into existence using a stick or something else as a prop. So her boy will almost certainly disabuse a feminist mother of claims that males and females are born with no basic differences.
It probably eventually occurs to a woman who has been "woke" out of feminist fantasies that maybe a husband might be a good idea after all. But finding one at that juncture will make what is always a difficult task very difficult indeed.